Why I teach you, not your dog

There is a common misconception among many people who get in touch with a dog trainer, and that is that we train your dog. Some people even go so far as to assume that they will have no input whatsoever in the process, which is really challenging for us to work with.

Here’s the truth: when I come to your house for a training session, I will be training you. I will help you to understand how to do a range of training exercises and management methods that will help YOU to solve your dogs problem behaviours. I will demonstrate to you how to introduce these exercises to your dog, and then I will watch while you practice. I will offer you support and feedback so that you know you are doing a great job, and I will give you ongoing support to help you move from step to step. I will celebrate with you as you and your dog reach your training goals. But I will be training you, far more than your dog!

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At the end of the day, my time with your dog will be somewhere in the vicinity of 60-90 minutes initially. We might book a follow up consult, which means I will spend another 60-90 minutes with your dog. You, on the other hand, will be spending hours everyday with your dog. Whether you are passively spending time relaxing together, or actively training, your dog will be learning from every moment with you. Consider every interaction with your dog a training opportunity. If I haven’t armed you with the training tools to make the most of these opportunities, then I haven’t upheld my end of the bargain!

I could create a service where I come to your home and work just with your dog. I could teach your dog to sit for greetings, walk nicely on a leash, focus intently on me instead of lunging at other dogs on walks, etc, but that wouldn’t help you. The process of training requires clear communication between a person and their dog, and the more time you spend teaching your dog that great things will happen when he responds to your requests, the more he will try to work with you. If I’ve put that time in, that does nothing for your dogs responsiveness to YOU.

There will always be trainers who offer to put in the hard yards and send a fully trained dog back into your home, but I am not one of them. I want to give you the skills to reach your own goals with your dog, skills that will help you not just with today’s problem but with every bump along the road you walk with your dog. I want YOU to experience the exciting rush when your dog can’t wait for your next cue because he enjoys working with you so much. I want you to see what I do, and understand why it works so that you can apply it with success yourself. I have no secret methods or tricks that I wouldn’t want to share.

At Treat. Play. Love. we train smart, not tough…and we want to teach you to do the same!


Myth Busting: Dominance and Dogs

This is a topic i am extremely passionate about. I still remember when i got my first dog at 13 years old and a trainer came to our home to help me with training my new puppy. It was all about “uh uh!!” and “no!!” and most importantly about establishing myself as the “alpha” dog.

dominance dog trainerA long time ago, some research was done on a group of captive wolves. The researchers observed that there seemed to be a whole lot of conflict in the group leading to there being an alpha male and female and a group of subordinate wolves. The dog community liked the term “alpha” and, figuring that dogs descended from wolves, decided that to train their dogs they would have to be “alpha” too. This led to trainers instructing people to go through a range of routines, such as being first through doors, never letting dogs on furniture, always eating before their dog, etc, all in an effort to be “alpha” in the “pack”. In extreme situations people were even instructed to pin their dogs on their back until they “submitted”.

Since this original research was done, zoologists and others in the scientific community have spent time observing wild wolves and have found that these wolves actually live in family groups. Just like in a human family the breeding pair (parents) are naturally the leaders, and the offspring from previous litters live cooperatively to help hunt and raise the new litter. Eventually the older offspring will leave to find their own mates, and they will then become the leaders in their own pack. They are not vying for “dominance” or to be “alpha”, they are living and breeding cooperatively in a way that improves species survival.

Watch David Mech, original researcher who coined the term “alpha”, explain why it is no longer relevant.

It is important to note that wolves don’t usually physically fight amongst their pack/family over things like “status”, and even scuffles over resources are highly ritualized – meaning the wolves use their well developed range of body language to diffuse conflict before it becomes physical (it is a waste of energy, and a survival risk, to get physical with your own family in the wild). This raises questions about the validity of any kind of checking, tapping, or other “bite” substitutes traditional trainers use “to mimic dog behaviour” when correcting a dog.

dog body languageWe have also got a lot more information on how wild/feral dogs live in various parts of the world. Rather than working cooperatively in a group, or pack, they tend to live independently in areas rich in resources (such as at tips, or in villages). Rather than hunting to take down large prey, they scavenge alone. They come together to mate, and even that is random – not based on who is “alpha”.

So we know that wolves don’t waste energy vying for alpha status, and we know that despite common ancestry, feral dogs behave and live in completely different ways to wolves. So why are we still “dominating” our pet dogs?

Dominance, as it applies to dogs, is not about status but rather about resources. If you have two dogs, one might always be first to get to the food (or perhaps it can take food from the other). This dog is dominant in that context. When it comes to play the other dog might get the ball first, and so it would be dominant during play. It is a description of behaviour in context, not a description of personality type, and it is a fluid state.

Describing certain behaviours, such as jumping up, stealing food, and rushing through doors, as the dog being “dominant” is not only flawed, but it instantly puts us in a confrontational state of mind. We have to show the dog who is boss!! Actually, dogs jump up to get closer to our face, a natural dog greeting, and because we often accidentally reinforce behaviours such as this. They steal food because it tastes great, and we haven’t taught them not to. And they rush through doors because there is something good on the other side. These are training problems, not personality problems.

We need to stop using dominance as an excuse to bully our dogs. Rather than pushing them around and engaging in pointless routines, we can be good leaders by showing our dogs what we want them to do in ways they can understand, such as through positive reinforcement training, and motivate them to do it again next time. Try it, your dog will appreciate it!